I often think about the definition of self love and how to measure your level. How can one truly love themselves? Does it require a high level of self confidence? An enormous amount of money? Or is it being surrounded by people who you feel accept you? I have learned through the years that self love must first start with self acceptance. It's those quiet moments when you are alone with your thoughts. The memories of your past and the mistakes that linger. Its learning to love the most unlovable parts of yourself. It is the acceptance that you are not the sum of your mistakes. Every choice is a moment that life gave you an experience, a moment in time. It is relinquishing those negative moments and not allowing them to control your life. It is protecting your peace against anyone, place, things, or condition that threaten your mental health. It is you choosing yourself first so that you no longer pour from an empty cup.
I have learned that life can be a beautiful experience if you allow yourself the grace and mercy of forgiveness. Forgiveness for all of the things you regret. Forgiveness for all of those moments that caused you pain. Allowing yourself the space to feel, but also the overcome. Growing through those experiences and not just going through those experiences. Each day I find myself growing, forgiving myself more, changing my thought pattern, and affirming my own power. Some days I do non of those things but each day I choose to show up for me.
Actually I think that is the true definition of self love. Showing up for yourself when you don't feel motivated, loving the most unlovable parts of yourself, and forgiving yourself.
Just my thoughts on paper. If no one said they loved you just know I do.
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